It was a particularly hectic time in my life with newborn twins, but I didn’t want to drop the ball on my other children, especially my number 3 who not only got a bomb dropped on her with TWO new sisters, but was no longer THE baby. When she said she wanted to do ballet, I initially thought I might get out of it, but she REALLY wanted to do it. After weeks of asking me, I finally packed everyone in the car, took her to sign ups and then needed the shoes from one store, an outfit from another… it was exhausting at this particular grueling point in motherhood. But it’s what THE de-throwned baby wanted, in fact INSISTED, so I killed myself to make it happen. And then THE day came and my husband took her to class. When they got home, barely speaking, I foolishly asked how it went when he responded, “Horribly”…UM – WHAT?! This was not the response I was looking for! It MUST be him (hormone, breast feeding twins, no sleep crazy mind thought!). To solve this, I declared I will be the one to take her… Sure enough, when it was my see-for-myself turn she HATED it. In fact, even the teacher said to me, “This really isn’t for her,” as if I was a crazed dance mom who had visions of future Nutcracker stardom. Which brings me to the point (listen, no one has ever claimed I’m not long winded), when is it okay for your child to quit? Should they learn to commit to their choices or should we give them a break? Breezy Mama turned to Harvard sociologist and parenting expert Dr. Hilary Levey Friedman, author of Playing to Win: Raising Children in a Competitive Culture for her advice.
Kids may hate a sport (or other activity) immediately, but soon make friends and learn to love it. BUT, if they don’t, how long should they “give it a go” before parents allow them to quit?
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