Question of the Day: My Child Keeps Wetting the Bed — and Himself!


By Rennett Stowe from USA

Question of the Day is where Breezy Mama‘s Go-To parenting whiz, Dr. Fran Walfish, who is an Expert in Parents Magazine’s “Ask Our Experts” column, is here to answer your daily parenting questions. Make sure to send us what’s on your mind to and Dr. Walfish will tackle it in a future Breezy post.

Now on to today’s question. . .

Help! My five and a half year old is peeing his bed every night and peeing in his clothes two-three times per day. This is relatively new. I try and just be calm and chill about it, I’m attributing to some sort of stress, but I’m at my wit’s end.

Dear Mom,

The first important piece of information you shared is that the peeing “accidents” are relatively new. This indicates one of a few possibilities. The first possibility is medical. Make sure you take him to his pediatrician, who may refer you to a pediatrician urologist, to rule out a bladder or kidney infection. The second is trauma. Something scary and anxiety raising may have occurred. Molestation, force by a peer or adult, and someone raging at your 5 1/2 little boy are possibilities. The third possible cause may be anger in him. If he is involved in or witnesses too much conflict during the daytime he may not have other ways to express his deep upset but to pee in his pants (you know, the expression, ‘pissed off’). Had you told me that he was peeing in his bed every night and two to three times each day I would have suggested the possibility of an immaturity in the development of his physical muscles that cue a person they need to urinate. Often, this slow to develop mechanism is a symptom that goes along with ADHD. Many kids with ADHD do not want to stop the fun and focus of what they are doing to momentarily walk to the bathroom and urinate. Thus, many daytime accidents. However, the fact that your son’s issue is relatively new rules out the ADHD component. Get him evaluated by his pediatrician and ask for a referral to a good child therapist who can help you create a plan for how to help your child.

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