Question of the Day is where Breezy Mama‘s Go-To parenting whiz, Dr. Fran Walfish, who is an Expert in Parents Magazine’s “Ask Our Experts” column, is here to answer your daily parenting questions. Make sure to send us what’s on your mind to firstname.lastname@example.org and Dr. Walfish will tackle it in a future Breezy post. Now on to today’s question. . .
Is it okay to send your children to two different schools if they have different needs? I’m afraid it will ruin their relationship if they are at separate schools. . . Is this the case, or would their relationship be strengthened from being apart from one another? (They are a grade apart.)
YES! It is okay to send your children to different schools. In fact, sometimes it’s required to benefit the children’s different needs. If for example you have one child with a learning disability and another that is mainstreamed, then you’ll need two schools to go to, to best fit your children’s needs.
That said, the calm, cool, collected state of the mother is just as important. So if shuttling two kids across town to two different schools leaves her harried and frazzled, then it may be better to keep the children together.
Bottom line, the choice needs to be a family one; not only based on the needs of the child, but the whole family.
About Dr. Frances Walfish:
Frances Walfish, Psy.D. is the foremost Beverly Hills child and family psychotherapist. Her caring approach, exuberant style, humor, and astute insights have earned her a sterling reputation among colleagues and national media alike. A frequent guest on top-tier TV programs, including NBC Nightly News with Brian Williams and KABC-TV in Los Angeles, The Doctors, CBS and often appearing in major publications such as Parents Magazine, Family Circle and Woman’s Day, Dr. Fran continues to lead the field with her expert insights and innovative strategies for parents, children and couples.
Her current book, The Self-Aware Parent: Resolving Conflict and Building a Better Bond with Your Child from Palgrave Macmillan’s/St. Martin’s Press, December 7, 2010, is receiving acclaimed reviews. William Morris Endeavor and Lake Paradise Entertainment are presently collaborating with Dr. Fran to produce a television series offering therapeutic guidance and help to families in America. More information on Dr. Fran can be found online at DrFranWalfish.com.
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